Huge dildo insertion. 'If you're new to the world of big toys, it’s best to start with something smaller initially and then work your way up,' Cole explains. 'You may find large dildos can be difficult to insert at first, so I recommend taking it slowly and getting into positions that allow you to spread out comfortably.' Never rush into using a large without foreplay or a warm-up, as you could injure yourself. Cole says once you're ready, a good position is lying on your back with a pillow underneath you, with your legs raised and spread. An alternative is to squat down over the dildo and lower yourself onto it. This gives you more control of the depth of insertion, so you can go at your own pace.