This is not what you thought marriage would be like. is it? When you were younger you had this naive hope that you'd find someone, fall in love, and live happily ever after. At the very least you imagined yourself in a happy marriage. As you got older you realized how unlikely that was going to be. No one is ever perfect, everyone has their flaws. Sometimes people even cheat. But never would you have guessed that you were the one who would be cheated on. After all, men are normally the ones who cheat, right? Yet here you are being bossed around and humiliated by me while your wife is out doing god (or who) knows what.