My pup is kind of a complete mess. Sometimes, that proves to be a challenge as we're effectively both self-employed, and her cosplay involves a whole lot of physical mess that can quickly spiral out of control. From preventing physical mess to helping her messy mind, one of my goals with our BDSM dynamic is to try to smooth this out by providing more enforced structure. My goals: - Breaking down the gargantuan task into multiple smaller tasks. - Building reinforced, structured habits that stick. - Making it fun. These are all classic ways to help such issues, but unlike a therapist, I have more options for negative reinforcement :) The primary way I handled this was to create a shared todo list with multiple broken down tasks, chores, and cleaning tasks. I associated each of these tasks with her puppy rules. - Over a couple months, we made some progress. First, the to do list was simply not being used regardless of what I did. - Eventually, we agreed that severe unpleasurable funishment was in order if the to do list was not completed, as that was the only way to get it to be done. - This funishment was to be 20 minutes of severe estim funishment. This fear achieved its purpose for a couple weeks, turning Kurai into a productivity machine, completing chores and work left and right, fully completing her to do list daily. - As you would expect, this did not last forever, and she eventually failed. What she didn't know is that alongside the e-stim, I had yet another challenging predicament for her. Attached to this post is a little showcase of what she went through :) Sadly, this resulted in a couple problems. 1. While it may not appear so in the video, she enjoyed this corrrection far too much. I thought it seemed pretty harsh, but I guess I'll have to come up with something more! 2. It's very hard to find the time to consistently correct bad behavior when your sub is an absolute masochist that enjoys this kind of torture. 3. Difficult to do while traveling... which resulted in a not-so-great overall success rate. 4. To be honest, it's difficult to consistently mix real-life issues (chores not getting done, work being behind, etc) with BDSM. As far as we've experienced, it seems to be a great way to help resolve problems, but it's very challenging to remain in the mood enough to be consistent with it. I'll have to figure out some better plans to build these habits... And probably train her to behave properly when she's being corrected. She said she loved it... so she really ought to look and moan like she's enjoying it, don't you think?